yung pueblo (@yung_pueblo)

5 days ago

A love without attachments does not mean that it is a love without commitments, the difference is that attachments are attempts at control and commitments are what we agree to voluntarily. In regard to interpersonal situations, attachments are what we place on other people, things we want them to do or ways we want them to be. If they cannot recreate the image we crave in our minds we feel a sense of distress because the attachment remains unfulfilled. Commitments are voluntary, they are a way of being that naturally arises from within us when we feel a special connection with someone. Commitments focus on how we personally wish to treat someone else, it emerges intuitively and cannot be forced upon us. Real love awakens when we commit to supporting each other’s happiness – knowing that we cannot fully make someone happy, but we can support the conditions for them to come upon their own happiness by allowing our actions to come from a space of love and kindness. Ultimately, attachments come from our cravings and are attempts to control, while commitments focus on giving. When two people feel the natural commitment to give love to one another, they both receive more. It is important to note that we can have the goal to have a partner who is loving, kind and supportive, but we cannot force someone to be a certain way – the kindness we wish for has to originate from another’s personal volition. Attachments create so much mental tension within us that it eventually flows outward and creates friction in our lives and relationships. Sending love to all beings. May we all be happy and free. 🙏🏽🌎 #yungpueblo

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