| LOVE YO’SELF // LOVE OTHERS | nearly three months ago to this very day, i got hired as a “barretender” at @barrefitness .ss.... i wanted the job for the same reason as most: i needed to make ends meet [while going to school]. and also, let’s be real, just to make ends meet. i knew the MOMENT i walked in to @barrefitness .ss and @scarlett .barre greeted me that this place was different. this wasn’t a corporate monster who doesn’t care about the little people. this wasn’t your typical female boss (or at least the ones i have encountered ) whom lead from a place of ego and competition. they were warm and inviting. they seemed to either jive with the total nerd-dork i was or they just didn’t even notice it was happening. they seemed to love me for everything that i am but most importantly, for everything [i think] i am not. and. they hired me on the spot. 6 days before the 4 year anniversary of my darling’s sudden passing. and then i started the day after the anniversary. november 19th to be exact. on my first day of training, i noticed there was the number 3 everywhere. like i mean EVERYWHERE. the code for the voicemail. the phone number for the studio. the address for the studio. and some other things i can’t mention in case a robber ends up reading this 😂 all are the number 3 or could be divided into 3. i knew when i was hired that something divine was happening and that my guardian angel had everything to do with it. i feel safe and at home here. and while it can’t be forever, i plan to continue to use my time at barre to learn, grow, create, and connect not just with the lovely humans i work with, but also all the beautiful souls coming in for class. completely unbeknownst to them. and as a complete and utter shock to me: barre saved me. these women saved me. all the while giving me the strength to save myself. thank you @barrefitness .ss thank you @scarlett .barre thank you kevin. thank you me. let’s all contiue to #pliewithpurpose , raise each other up, and spread the LOVE. and to the souls out there grieving that good grief, i not only see you, i walk WITH you. you are not alone ❤️ with love, @thegriefgangster
Losing you will always cause me pain, but I refuse to let grief rob me of our special memories, our best conversations and the life-changing love we shared. . 🕯 The loss of a loved one is painful. Grief can be overwhelming, but preserving memories can help ease the pain and celebrate a special life. Create an Online Memorial with ForeverMissed.com to pay homage to your loved one, share memories, and remember all the little moments together. . 🔗 Active link to our website is in the bio ➡ @forevermissedmemorials . . . . . #forevermissedmemorials #forevermissed #griefsupport #griefjourney #griefwork #bereaved #grievingprocess #grieflife #griefclub #adayinthelifewithgrief #copingwithgrief #neverforgotten #youngwidow #widowlife #momofanangel #missingmymom #missingmydad #ripangel #griefislove #widower
My face when my little gataway comes to an end or when something else at the house breaks... In today’s case both 😫 . .
This is a truth that has helped guide me through moments and seasons of feeling confused. - The Spirit of God leads me into all truth. - “And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you. He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you.” John 14:16-17 NLT - #followingJesus #truth #youngwidow #hope #peace #rest #trustingHimAgain #awayofthinking #whatsyourfocus #widowhood #grief #griefandloss
You know when you put on your husband’s respirator and inhale all his “worker man smell” and just start weeping while thinking “how the fuck did I get here?” “How can he really be dead?” And “how has it already been almost 18 months?” Well that happened this morning. It’s crazy how grief just hits like a Mac truck when you least expect and man, do I miss that guy who came home each night smelling like a worker man. . . . #grief #widowhood #widowlife #widowed #imissyou #grieving #griefjourney #widow #youngwidow #respirator #projects #widowspeak #widows #widower #greatloss #lifeafterloss #singlemom #singlemomlife #navigatingloss #modernloss #griefwaves #allthefeels #workerman #workingman
Your spirit loved ones absolutely know what is going on in your life at the current moment. This includes knowing what you have done for them since their passing and the ways that you honor them, feel close to them, and grieve for them. These sorts of validations come up often in mediumship readings, because they prove the continuation of consciousness and the everlasting bond of love between souls that transcends death. . Quite early on in my mediumship journey, I connected to a woman’s father in spirit. Not long into the reading, the father then brought a boy forward next to him (the woman’s son - also in spirit ). For some reason, the son chose to present himself as if he was 7-8 years old, but I didn’t know at the time that he had actually been 17 when he passed (the woman told me later that the 7-8 year old timeframe had been a favorite time for him in his life when he was here - which she felt was why he presented that way ). . Several evidential validations were provided by the boy and his grandfather. Enough that we knew without a doubt that they were with me. But then, still as the 7-8 year old child, the spirit boy suddenly held up a pair of plaid flannel pajama pants. I could see the colors and named them for the woman (I can no longer recall what they were, though ). But the interesting thing was that the pajama pants were not sized for a boy, the boy had to extend his arms up in to the air to even hold them up. They were pajama pants sized for a man. So I described the pants, what they looked like, the colors, and said “These belong to a man, though. There’s no way these would have fit him - they’re man-sized.” . It was at this time that the woman told me her son had actually been 17 years old when he passed. A tall 17-year-old. And that he had a pair of pajama pants just like those, which she kept, and she wears them herself to feel close to him. The next day, she sent me a photo of her lap while she was lounging in those same pants - to feel close to her son. They looked exactly like the ones he’d held up for me. . We all have different ways of coping. And our loved ones know about them all. . They see you. 💕💫
When life shatters, we’re at a place for God to reshape us. When life fractures, we can let God clean us out. When life empties, we can let God fill us. In deep loss, we find God more deeply. One thing I know: our unexpected and unwanted is never Plan B. Don’t buy into that. God doesn’t give his children second best. He is writing Chapter 2 and as such, it’s filled with as much love and abundance and good as the chapter before. Let go of what’s gone. Find the beauty where you are. And glorify God on every page He writes. 📖
48/365 Tyler and his sister Nicole cracking up about something. Tyler was so close with his amazing family. He was the glue and the leader and best of all the comedian for all of us. - . . . #ayearoftyler #family #ourleader #funniest #cryinglaughing #myheart #fearless #bestpapa #wemissyou #love #loss #suddenloss #grief #griefislove #grieving #griefsupport #bestfriendsforever #griefjourney #widow #myperson #youngwidow #talkaboutgrief #honoryourheart #honoryourgrief #ourlovehasnoend #illmeetyouinthestars #soulmates
My mood walking into this week 😎
“Kindness can transform someone's dark moment with a blaze of light. You'll never know how much your caring matters. Make a difference for another today.” -Amy Leigh Mercree Today is National Acts of Kindness Day. So many of us are unfairly harsh on ourselves when our partners and spouses aren’t here to do something kind and loving for us. But that is EXACTLY where YOU come to your own rescue in this scenario. This month is dedicated to allowing you to be overly KIND and LOVING as possible for your own sake. Why? Because if you can’t be that for you, how can you expect anyone else to do so? So….let’s embarrass ourselves with how over the top kindness and some love can be this month…. . . . . #kindness #nationalactsofkindnessday #modernwidowsclub #mondaymotivation #nowidowleftbehind #healthywidowhealthywoman #empowerwidows #widows #widowlife #wisters #widowhood #lifeafterloss #grieving #grief #griefjourney #griefandloss #griefsupport #griefawareness #widowedliving #widowsofinstagram #youngwidow #widowedmom #widow #widowshelpingwidows #healthyhealing #resilience #modernloss #newnormal #widowadvocate
As women, we put so much pressure on ourselves to be everything for everyone else. We give and show up and put the needs of others before our own. . It’s not always as easy to be as dedicated to ourselves as we are to others. . Grief often hits like a tsunami and demands that we slow down and learn to feel and process our own emotions. It demands that we pause and return to self in order to heal and rebuild a life post loss. And this means that we have to learn to put our own own healing first. . And that isn’t selfish. And you aren’t self centered for taking the time to be with yourself and to show up for yourself. No matter what others have told you, healing is an act of love. Both for yourself and for everyone around you. . By loving and caring for ourselves first, we get to be there is a much greater capacity for those we love. Healing ourselves will make us more patient and more present with the people in our lives. . You truly can not pour from an empty cup. . Healing is an act of love ❤️ . #grief #theuniversehasyourback #spiritjunkie #griefandloss #griefquotes #griefjourney #loss #lossofalovedone #youngwidow #love #healing #healingjourney #selftrust #selflove #selfcare #takecareofyourself #takecareofyou #innerpeace #innerstrength #innerwork #innerwisdom
It's never too late to be whatever you want to be or feel whatever you want to feel or do whatever you want to do. Now is the perfect time to start.
YOU will get THROUGH... 💜 . . #hopeforwidows #widow #grief #hope #hopesisters #selfcare #movingforward #youngwidow #griefjourney #widowhood #babysteps #griefawareness #loss #griefsupport #widowsofinstagram #hope #youareenough #widowshelpingwidows #peertopeersupport #griefandloss #widowproblems #widowlife #missinghimalways #griefsucks #widows #emotionalrollercoaster #griefishardwork #grieflookslikethis #emotions #alwayslovingyou #dontjudgewhatyoudontunderstand
I love a good heart filling, mind feeding, humility activating trip. Any new destination is my favorite destination. It's like there is a piece of me in all corners of the world. Sparkling or humble corners and each time I go visit some place new, I find myself. 🤍💕 ... #IfIKnewThenWhatIKnowNow 🌺 #YourFriendlyNeighborhoodWidow #WidowsOfInstagram #YoungWidow #Widowed #SelfEsteem #SelfCare #LoveOnTop #LaunchingSoon #Podcasts #PodcastsOfInstagram #Blogger #Podcaster #Writer #NoyAWidowsHandbook #BlackGirlMagic #BaldGirlsClub #BaldGirlsClub #RockYourBald #AirportOutfits #ThatsNotMySnapple
DO MORE OF WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY . I don't remember catching this exact fish, but from the smile on my face I can sure tell that it brought me so much happiness!! Honestly, looking at this photo still makes me smile today. .. How easy is it to forget to do the things that make you happy? We get so wrapped up in the day to day that we forget to stop and have some fun. .. The best part is, you can choose what you want to do. Do things that make you happy, do things that bring you joy, do things that set your soul on freaking fire! .. There will always be things that need to get done, but make sure you are having some fun too! 🤍
This is the lovely gentleman who owns the tea house on the Nakasendo Magome pass. He serves green tea and sweets, and asks only for a donation in return. The water for the tea is boiled on an indoor stove, and as there’s no chimney the smoke is allowed to drift off into the eaves, where it covers the rafters and walls with a rich black stain, preserving the wood for many hundreds of years #griefwalks #grief #bereavement #wildgrief #grieftherapy #grieftravel #youngwidow #widowlife #japan #nakasendo #teahouse #greentea #tea
We’re walking in Black Bear country, and they’re about to come out of hibernation. You’re supposed to ring the bells to ward them off, but we decided that the bells probably serve more as ‘here’s lunch!’ alerts for the bears #griefwalks #grief #bereavement #wildgrief #grieftherapy #youngwidow #widowlife #japan #nakasendo #hiking
I took this pic for you @letters_to_john . When I exclaimed with delight at breakfast at the heart shaped poached egg, the tour guide teased me by saying that all poached eggs in Japan are served as hearts! I got very excited about that, so then had to be let down very gently! But I then explained that I’d be taking a picture for you, and why. So you and John are having an impact in Japan x #grief #bereavement #youngwidow #widowlife #japan #poachedeggs #heartshapedegg
#love #success #motivation #change #routine #quote #youngwidow #abundance #dailyroutine #widow #life #quotes #inspiration #goals #lawofattraction #mindset #daily #energy #lifestyle #motivational #gratitude #meditation #spirituality #quotesdaily #follow #thoughts #quotesaboutlife #smile #happy #busymom
With 3 months to go, registrations for Camp Widow Australia are at 70% capacity. For those yet to register or are still thinking about it, we do expect the event to sell out and encourage you to register soon. Our volunteer team are in full event planning mode and are excited to be hosting Camp Widow in Australia. We have confirmed all our workshop presenters and are looking forward to welcoming all attendees in May. Link is in our bio. #campwidow #campwidowaustralia #aussiewidow #widow #widower #widowed #youngwidow #grief #griefsupport #healing #connection #hope #community #understanding #firstlightwidowedassociation
***NEW BLOG POST*** 10 Times You Were Inconsiderate (or Downright Rude ) to the Widow in Your Life - Link in bio Referring to a late-spouse as an ex – Dead isn’t synonymous with an ex-partner. The terms are not interchangeable. Read it again. Not the same. EVER. #youngwidow #youngwidowedanddating #widow #support #loss #grief
My Fabylous life. Because life is Not what happens to you. But what you make of your life. . . I chose to make mine FABYLOUS! I know there will be hard days. Extra hard days. But what’s important is how you get through the hard days, And who stands with you.
Appointments can be booked directly on my website (link in IG bio and at top of FB page ). Please click on “Schedule a Reading” (at the top of the drop-down menu, not within it ❤️ ). Choose your reading type, reading modality (phone, Zoom, Skype, FaceTime ), then your own time zone and an appointment day/time. ☺️ . If you are looking for a mixed mediumship / intuitive reading, please just book one or the other and let me know that you’d like mixed when we meet for the appointment. 💕💫
Forever in my heart Hello : 10•3•15 First date : 10•4•15 Will you? : 1•16•16 We do! : 2•16•16 Last Goodbye : 10•26•19 Agape ❤️🦢
I showed the girls the cover of my book & the first thing they both said was ‘why are dad’s initials on the bottom of the book?’ The DP stands for Difference Press but one can interpret it any way you would like. ♥️ Another coincidence? 🤔
I flew to the sweetest, saltiest, kindest island by the sea. I got here and I slept. I slept and I slept and I slept. I lay on the beach and tried to make friends again with my old flame the sun, seeing as he killed my love. I listened to the ocean waves for hours. I walked around the island. I danced. I lay out on the porch under piles of blankets, listening to music and staring up at the stars. There are so many hours in the day when you have no one dying or grieving to take care of, I thought. I’m doing so well. I feel so good. I feel “hopeful”, I wrote to a friend who checked in with me. Someone wise once told me that grief makes us exaggerated versions of ourselves. I was already leaning towards introversion and grief has put me over the edge into full-on hermit mode. I love my solitude. I find it harder to spend time with people who don’t understand. No one and nothing can fill the void in my heart. Only I can do that. A widower I know, about six months out, recently told me that at three months he felt a surge of happiness and thought he had “out-thought grief”. He was experiencing his first real break from the initially constant waves of grief. At six months, he told me, he was realizing that the waves continue. “Oh, they never stop”, I told him. Cocky in my almost eleven-month widow-veteran status. And yet, our desire for “happiness” for “better-ness”, is engrained and runs deep. I fell into that trap myself these past few days. It felt good to (for once ) tell the friends who texted me to check in that I was “doing great!” I know it’s what everyone wants to hear. I write and think all the time about the importance of accepting and diving into grief. Of welcoming in the darkness. And yet, I am tired. I want it to be over. I want it to be better. Tonight, I sobbed thinking about twenty-year old Brian. The beautiful, vibrant young person who he was. I didn’t even know him then. But I would give up ever having met him, if he could just be alive out there, sharing his light with the world. I’d give it all up for his laugh to still exist, somewhere, for someone.
Nothing. Sit down next to her. Listen. Let her speak. The words will tumble out, she'll change subjects and begin all over again. If she chose you, remember how special that is. She chose you to listen to her heart, her sorrows, her joys, her life. It's perhaps the greatest gift of all. That she chose you. 💙 #laughterafterdeath #lookingintherearviewmirror #widow #widower #widowed #widowedmom #grief #widowlife #widowedyoung #youngwidow #griefsucks #write #writer #womenwhowrite #writersofinstagram #words #widowhood #widowedandyoung #lifeafterloss #heartbreak #lifeafterlove #movingforward #bereavement #loss #soloparenting #griefsupport #grieving #widowsofinstagram
Valentines Day was bittersweet this year. It was our first Valentine’s Day without Jordan. But the girls and I are surprisingly happy. I’ve been hesitant to share a very special part of my life, as I never want to hurt anyone’s feelings. When I started Guts and Gloss, I vowed to share lots of my life with you. The very personal part about my challenges as a wife and caregiver to my late husband. And the fun parts of my life like my love of fashion and beauty. You’ve joined me on my journey for years watching me take care of my family and my husband, and offered me and the girls tremendous support when he was no longer with us and beyond. After this Valentine’s Day, I want to share I’m moving on to my next chapter. I’ve met someone special who loves me, loves my girls, and someone who has shown me my heart can grow bigger and love more. I can’t wait to take this next journey with you all in my corner supporting the girls and I, as we love this new life, without ever forgetting the past. . . . . #gutsandgloss #momlife #floridamom #workingwoman #momboss #socialmedia #unfilteredmotherhood #unfilteredlife #empoweringwomen #empowerment #empower #empowerwomen #empowered #reallife #valentinesday #galentinesday #movingforward #journey #youngwidow #youngwidowedanddating #widow #thejourneyisthedestination #feelings #support #friendship #nextchapter #newchapter
Resting is not something that comes naturally to me...especially since becoming a widow.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 👉🏼 For so long I have associated being busy with -self-worth.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ (🤗 Not to mention the gazillion and one ideas I get excited about when it comes to serving my widowed mom clients and all the “to dos” that come with being a mom. 💛 )⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ These days I am learning to plan my rest just like I plan my work....✅⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What are your favorite ways to rest and rejuvenate in this culture of busy? 🤔⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ . ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #widow #widowsofinstagram #widowedmom #widowed #youngandwidowed #grief #griefandloss #widowhood #widowhoodisnotforsissies #momgoeson #widowcoach #widowstrong #hopeforwidows #youngwidow #youngwidows #youngwidowsclub #posttraumaticgrowth #griefandlosssupport #widows #widowlife #widowlifesucks #strongmom #thelifecoachschool #griefrecovery #griefawareness #lifeafterloss #widowhoodsisterhood #widowshelpingwidows #thewidowedmompodcast
Yesterday in my stories, I shared a little about how I have learned to connect with A’s energy and spirit and how I receive signs and guidance all the time. . I believe that our loved ones are still with us and that they are always sending us signs that they are still around. It’s up to us to become open to receiving this guidance by learning a new language. . Our loved ones communicate with us through signs, through energy, synchronicities and through our own intuition. . I teach this in my online program: Empowered through grief, but if you’re interested in learning how to connect and how to deepen your own intuition, send me a DM. And if there are enough of you who would like to know more, I’ll create a mini course or masterclass on this topic and send you the link 🥰 . #grief #griefjourney #selfcare #theuniversehasyourback #griefsupport #spiritjunkie #griefandloss #connection #spiritual #intuition #intuitiveguidance #widowed #youngwidow #selfloven #lossofalovedone #griefsucks #healingjourney #griefhealing #fatherlessdaughters #motherlessdaughters #bereavedmother #bereavement #siblingloss
It’s snowed all week here in Denver. As much as I like to get out to ski, build snowmen, and just stomp around hearing the snow crunch beneath my feet, I’ve lacked the energy to do much more than cozy up on the couch this week. I feel like I’m in hibernation mode. I’m craving stillness, quiet, peace. While this feeds into my feelings of loneliness, I have this strange desire to lean into these moments and explore my solitude. . . My therapist told me that the second year after a loved one dies is often harder than the first. She explained that the shock and numbness starts to wear off and all the emotions really begin to surface. As I approach one year of Ian being gone in March, I’m definitely FEELING his absence more than ever right now. . . Maybe it’s because I’m no longer numb. Maybe it’s because at this same time last year we were getting ready to go to Hawaii — in what ended up being the culmination of Ian’s life. Or maybe, it’s because I’m finally finding some stillness. Some space to just be with my thoughts and experience my emotions. Because ever since Ian died, I’ve been in survival mode — every day, asking what now? I’ve had glimpses of raw grief, but in reflecting, I’ve been distracted trying to figure out what to do with my new life. . . But as I write this during nap time looking out at the magical snow fall, I truly feel a shift. As Izzy, Theo and me settle into this new normal, there is less distraction and more space to feel. . . For me, distraction comes easy, solitude does not. I know it would be easy to escape my aloneness with dating and work, but I believe the work I’m doing by just “BEING” is far more important. . . Because learning to be ok by myself is actually learning to love myself. . . If you feel me, get comfy on your couch as the snow falls outside and check out my blog post about loneliness [link in profile]. Even though we feel alone, we are truly in this together. . . And, save the date for moveTHRU: Loneliness! March 29 at 11:30am at @rushcycle_denver . DM me for details. . . #selflove #loneliness #widow #youngwidow #cancer #grief #griefjourney #griefsupport #selfiesunday #feelings
Dating after your husband dies...the subject feels so taboo. . . But, life handed me (and so many other widows ) these cards and we deserve to find love and happiness again. So, let’s open up the conversation! . . Dating as a recent widow has been intimidating and scary (I’ll admit I hadn't been on a legit date since I was 24 when Ian and I were on a little “break” ), but it’s also been entertaining and kind of fun. Not only that, I’m learning a lot about myself and others in the process! . . I shared some of my experience about the complexities of dating as a widow with @scarymommy and they published my post! Check out the link in my profile for the full article! . . Looking forward to your thoughts and making dating as a widow more accepted and approachable. 💕💔💕 . . 📷: @taliakitephoto . . #dating #widow #youngwidow #loveafterloss #grief #bereavement #griefjourney #datingawidow #love #valentinesday
February 2020 -> August 2018 . This photo does not do justice for the powerful feeling Of today. . I sat here and felt the cold stone beneath me and I wept. I wept because I was sitting in the same spot my husband once sat. I wept because the photo below he was on his way home to marry me. I wept because the tight group of boys who once sat on this stone ledge is now forever broken. I wept because I was happy that Kyle wanted to share this with me. But then the sun came out and it got brighter... I picked up my head and seen my future standing in front of me. . Everyday, There are many things that go through my mind; The accident, the what if’s, the scared feeling something like this could happen again. Even though these are very real feelings and sometimes very scary feelings, I choose not to live in fear, to live in sadness to live with what could have beens because the what could have beens is not an option. My option is to keep moving forward and to embrace each day. . The feeling of sitting were my Aaron sat i truly felt him there with us today. As I reflect everything post Aaron, I’m happy! I’m happy with my choices and my decisions because they lead me to Kyle and our dear sweet Raelynn. My adventure didn’t stop there it has just begun. . . . . #oneyoungwidow #youngwidow #lifeafterloss #griefjourney #persuitofhappiness #happiness #strongwomen #empoweringwomen #strongissexy #myjourney #traveling #grandcanyon #arizona #2020 #crosscountryroadtripping #instapic #photography #bestoftheday #smile #goodvibes #nofilter #instamood #helpingothers #healing #beforeandafter #oldandnew #instaart #instatraveling #myherowearswings #mood
“To have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us is gone, will give us some protection forever. It is in your very skin.” JK Rowling . . Thank you for showing me what love is, Marcus. Loving you, being loved by you, was a gift. You are forever a part of me. Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤️ . . #ichoosejoy #haveanamazingday #valentinesday #love #youngwidow #misshim #singlesawarenessday #valentine #❤️
Valentine’s Day is a little weird for me this year. This time last year I was in such survival mode that I could have cared less about the holiday, plus Marcus and I were never huge V-Day celebrators. Now I can understand why people say the second year after losing someone is harder than the first. The first year is just making it through for the most part. The second year you are more aware of what you’ve lost. It’s more apparent that I don’t have a person. And it hurts in a different way. Maybe not as gut-wrenching, more just lonely. Missing what I had. . . I have learned so much in the past year. I don’t NEED anyone. But I miss having someone. It’s in our nature to want companionship. Someone who desires us. Someone we can share our days with, our life with. Someone to talk about the little parts of our days (sorry, BFF for taking your ear off when we get on the phone 🤣 ). There’s something about losing someone that makes you appreciate even more what you had. So if you are celebrating with someone this year, realize fully what a gift that is. Love is beautiful and rare, and it deserves to be celebrated! . . Also, please remember the people who are single on this holiday and show them a little extra love. If you one who lost your companion, know that God loves you and you are never alone. It’s ok to miss your husband, to long for what you had. Or to long for something new. Or for something you never had. But someone new won’t fix everything, it should only be a bonus. No person can complete you. And no person can heal your hurt. Only God can do that. . . #ichoosejoy #haveanamazingday #valentines #valentinesday #love #loss #lovemyhusband #widow #youngwidow #ithurts #loveyouforever #alone #hurt #singlesawarenessday
The path to your goals isn’t straight and narrow. It’s not flat or easy. It’s bumpy and messy and full of obstacles. There are temptations on every corner for you to give up. There will always be something standing in your way that will tell you that it’s not worth it. . DO NOT LISTEN. . The hard work, the sweat, the tears, the time/money/energy invested...it will all be worth it if you will just stay the course. There will be days that you will fall and it WILL hurt, but the moment you get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward is the moment you become STRONGER. . You are worthy, you are capable, an you can f$&king do this. KEEP GOING.
This little boop, my doggo Charlee, has been a saving grace over the past 15 months. I couldn't imagine being in the home that Evan and I shared without her comforting presence. Charlee is always so excited to see me, whether I have been gone 5 minutes or 5 hours. She's a great way to help me sooth when I am overcome with emotion. She has provided so much comfort and joy to myself and my family this past while. Pets are such a gift❤❤ . . . #love #selflove #bigmagic #grief #youngwidow #widow #thunderbay #kitchener #waterloo #universe #reiki
Is this my daddy? All morning Fleur has been talking about death and what happens to the body when we die. So I explained and then it was time to take her up to the loft, take out the memory box and show her Jeroen’s ashes (stored in a jam jar... Jeroen would appreciate my practical approach 😂 ). Fleur was fascinated and explored with all her senses. ‘So this is my dad?’ she asked after a while. ‘No Fleur, these are only the bodily remains, but the spirit of your daddy is all around you, forever. Love never dies.’ With that she looked up, smiled and was done with the subject. #widowed #widowsofinstagram #youngwidow #widowedmom #grievingmother #grievingchild #widowspeak #grief #grieving #griefsupport #lifeafterloss #healingjourney #journeywithin #posttraumaticgrowth